Consent is mandatory for all forms of touch and play, this is a non-negotiable requirement at The Wink. It is important that we maintain a physically and emotionally safe environment for our members, so anything more than a handshake with a new friend must be communicated and consented to.

It is the responsibility of every participant to obtain consent as well as enforce your boundaries. If a request sounds interesting, tell your new partner(s) what you need for that activity to be satisfying for you. If a request is uninteresting, or even if you’re unsure, give them a firm and clear “no.” Err on the side of caution, you can always change your mind later.

Consent should be given verbally and affirmatively; own your “yes” and communicate your “no's”. Misunderstandings can occur when consent is left to body language. You should negotiate the scope of your activities, set boundaries and limits, and determine safe words if necessary before beginning play.

Consent must be given enthusiastically, knowledgeably and consciously from everyone engaging in play. Make sure any and all potential partners are in a position to give valid consent, are in a stable headspace, and have agency over their decisions. When negotiating group play, make sure all members are agreed to the scope of your activities, and that any subsequent members are included in that scope as well.

Consent can be withdrawn or restricted at any time, no questions asked. You reserve the right to veto an agreement, communicate a boundary, or outright stop an activity at your discretion. Check in with your partners regularly, and comply gracefully should they want to modify, pause, or end your play.

We take consent violations very seriously and investigate any and every claim. Consent violations can happen intentionally or inadvertently, with or without malice, but if you find your personal boundaries have been crossed, we encourage you to speak with a guardian. Guardians are available and visibly marked; they're there to provide support, address issues and answer questions.